An alleged acquaintance of Nigerian dance queen Kafayat Shafau, popularly known as Kaffy, has come forward with a claim regarding why many men may be reluctant to marry her, suggesting that the reason goes far beyond her being a single mother as she has often expressed.
This revelation comes shortly after Kaffy’s recent appearance on the Honest Bunch Podcast, where the celebrated choreographer spoke candidly about her upbringing, her journey as a single mother of two, and why she has remained unmarried despite her fame and accomplishments. During the podcast, Kaffy explained that societal stigma attached to single mothers has played a significant role in her difficulty finding a partner, adding that many men tend to label and avoid women in her position.
However, in reaction to her statement, a social media user identified as @CollinsUma countered her claims by alleging that his personal interaction with Kaffy left him with a negative perception that had nothing to do with her status as a single mother. According to him, during a project they both worked on, the dancer allegedly displayed an attitude he considered overly condescending.
He recalled a particular moment on the project where Kaffy insisted that he and others must address her as “Dr Kaffy,” an experience he said felt humiliating, especially considering that he was also in charge of coordinating a major aspect of the work. Sharing the incident online, he wrote: “No, sweetheart, that’s not the reason. We were working on a project together one time and she warned me seriously that I must always call her Dr Kaffy. Spoke to me, a 40+ man, like I was her child. Me that was coordinating a big aspect of the project.”
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His statement quickly went viral and has since sparked a heated conversation on social media. While some users sided with him and accused Kaffy of having a difficult personality, others defended her, arguing that insisting on her professional title does not justify dismissing her as a potential partner.
A user identified as @them_alone wrote in Kaffy’s defense: “People with PhD no dey carry that Dr thing play. My lecturer in school nearly failed one student because of that.” This sentiment highlighted how some Nigerians view the respect of academic titles as non-negotiable. On the other hand, another user, @kachistopeet, expressed a different view, saying, “A man who doesn’t like wahala would simply walk away from such drama…and leave the woman to cry bitter. But you see those men who like all the wahala and drama, they’d be ready to jump in the mud with you…and when you come out, you’d still cry bitter.”
As of now, Kaffy has not issued any official response to these fresh allegations, leaving the public debate around her personality, marital status, and claims made by her alleged acquaintance unresolved.